Women Are Not Required to Have Children

Fuckin’ aye

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I’ve never wanted children. I don’t now and I never will.

For some reason this fact upsets people and they always try to argue with me about it. Let me just go ahead and tell you what not to say when a woman says that she doesn’t want to have children:

  • Don’t say that!
    • How about you not tell me what to do
  • Oh you just haven’t met the right person yet
    • Meeting someone isn’t going to make me want a baby, what kind of dumbass logic is that?
  • You’ll change your mind
    • No. I won’t. And if I do it will be my choice, not someone else trying to make a decision for me
  • But what if your future husband wants kids?
    • It’s not the fucking 1920s. I’m a grown ass woman and I make my own decisions. I’m not going to marry someone who doesn’t respect my choices…

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Sticks & Stones: Eurydice Dixon

-- Trigger Warning -- The other day, I read an article by Jane Gilmore, discussing that there was no national outrage or outcry, and little had been said in the media, about the fact that just the other week in Australia, six women were murdered in five days. Yes. Six women were murdered in five … Continue reading Sticks & Stones: Eurydice Dixon

Hump Day Special: The Countdown

So, by the time you read this, I will most likely be sitting in a hospital room, receiving help from an illness (most of my posts are scheduled wayyyy in advance, and I'm using my spare time to update everything). TODAY IS THE LAST DAY OF THE YOU KNOW YOU WANT IT competition! And I am sick. … Continue reading Hump Day Special: The Countdown

#WhyIDidn’tReport: My Friend’s Rape Story Changed

-- Trigger and Content Warning -- Like with the "Friendship Breakup" series, over the next few weeks, I'll be answering commonly asked questions surrounding, specifically, Dr Ford and the entire fiasco that we just watched.  As this topic is of a sensitive nature, and many of you may have questions or stories you'd like to … Continue reading #WhyIDidn’tReport: My Friend’s Rape Story Changed

Carla’s Drunk Reviews: The Bachelor Australia (Current Season)

So I am not going to lie – I have literally never seen an episode of any kind of the Bachelor. Ever. The most that I know about The Bachelor comes from the TV series UnReal, which I LOVE, and I’m pretty sure is going to be far better and far more fucked up than … Continue reading Carla’s Drunk Reviews: The Bachelor Australia (Current Season)

Showcase Special: Female Scientists You’ve (Probably) Never Heard Of #Vol 3

In my very first post, I discussed the relevance of Cecilia Payne who, with the help of her husband Sergei, was one of the most prominent astronomers ever and was the first person recorded to conclude the compositions of stars, so that we knew they were big balls of gas, and not fireflies stuck in … Continue reading Showcase Special: Female Scientists You’ve (Probably) Never Heard Of #Vol 3

Sticks & Stones: Larissa Beilby

-- Trigger Warning -- The other day, I read an article by Jane Gilmore, discussing that there was no national outrage or outcry, and little had been said in the media, about the fact that just the other week in Australia, six women were murdered in five days. Yes. Six women were murdered in five … Continue reading Sticks & Stones: Larissa Beilby

Everyone’s a Critic: How to Turn Off Negative Thoughts, Part 1

Writing Radiation

For a long time, I’ve wanted to talk about a free stress management course my gym offered.  Unfortunately, ever time I started, a voice in the back of my head piped up: “Stop, you idiot!  No one cares what you have to say.  No one will read your posts.  A 5th-grader could write better than you.”

I like to think humans developed this inner critical voice for society’s benefit – to keep us safe or make us nicer people.  But, clearly, our inner self-critics sometimes go far beyond whatever original purpose they served.

Sometimes, like my inner nay-sayer, they get overwhelming.  We don’t always notice how often or how aggressive our critics get, giving them control.

They can curb our potential with their insidious whispers –

“Don’t try that new activity.  You’ll just embarrass herself.”

“Don’t ask that person out for coffee.  You’re not good enough to date…

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Hump Day Special: Giveaway Competition

You Know You Want It. In a paperback version. https://www.instagram.com/p/BojcvJsAGs6/?taken-by=thingscarlaloves That you could win. No catches, strings, anything. It doesn’t come with, “Enter this competition and then leave a nice review because you won a book”, because you are allowed to hate it. You are allowed to rip it up or give it away. https://www.instagram.com/p/BoAYveRA2yh/?taken-by=thingscarlaloves You are … Continue reading Hump Day Special: Giveaway Competition

#Why I Didn’t Report: Shouldn’t Dr Ford Be Able To Remember Everything?

-- Trigger and Content Warning -- Like with the "Friendship Breakup" series, over the next few weeks, I'll be answering commonly asked questions surrounding, specifically, Dr Ford and the entire fiasco that we just watched.  As this topic is of a sensitive nature, and many of you may have questions or stories you'd like to … Continue reading #Why I Didn’t Report: Shouldn’t Dr Ford Be Able To Remember Everything?