Showcase Special: Forgotten Women Scientists You’ve (Probably) Never Heard Of #Vol 8

Okay, so if you’re a hetro-cis woman reading this and you’ve had sex, like ever, you’re probably aware of two important things when it comes to sex: Men don’t know much more than where a vagina is They think a few thrusts is ‘great sex’, and assume cause they’ve orgasmed, you have to have because … Continue reading Showcase Special: Forgotten Women Scientists You’ve (Probably) Never Heard Of #Vol 8

#StopBlamingWomenMakeMenTheIssue: Nasrin Abek

— Trigger Warning — The other day, I read an article by Jane Gilmore, discussing that there was no national outrage or outcry, and little had been said in the media, about the fact that just the other week in Australia, six women were murdered in five days. Yes. Six women were murdered in five days. As a result, … Continue reading #StopBlamingWomenMakeMenTheIssue: Nasrin Abek

#WhyIDidn’tReport: Matt Damon, Rape Culture and The Sliding Scale

— Trigger and Content Warning — Like with the “Friendship Breakup” series, over the next few weeks, I’ll be answering commonly asked questions surrounding, specifically, Dr Ford and the entire fiasco that we just watched.  As this topic is of a sensitive nature, and many of you may have questions or stories you’d like to … Continue reading #WhyIDidn’tReport: Matt Damon, Rape Culture and The Sliding Scale

Carla’s Sometimes Sober Drunk Reviews: The Red Carpet Diaries, Book 1, Ep 1

So I decided I’d recap different Choices books, chapter by chapter. I’m going to start with Red Carpet Diaries, Book One, cause I’ve played it before and it’s not shit. Like the title suggests, sometimes I'll be sober, sometimes I'll be not sober. It's a mix! Okay, so like, straight up, when you download Choices … Continue reading Carla’s Sometimes Sober Drunk Reviews: The Red Carpet Diaries, Book 1, Ep 1

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to heal from distant, rejecting, or self-involved parents, by Lindsay C. Gibson, PsyD.

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My Copy: 9781626251700 (image from bn.com)

This book is pretty self-explanatory in what it’s about. However, it was still an eye-opener, because it doesn’t go for the easy, pigeon-hole answers and instead gets the reader to focus on the range of possibilities.

The word “immature” has always been a strange one to me, because where’s the line between mature and immature? Throw emotionally in there and it’s more awkward. Frankly, I never thought of myself as particularly mature, considering my general ignorance of social norms and whatnot that’ve been part of me all these decades.

But this book is not that hard to understand. Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents talks about the four types of difficult parents: the emotional one, the driven one, the passive one, and the rejecting one. At different times, many parents may shift into one of these types, but the Emotionally Immature will be part…

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Showcase Special: Forgotten Women Scientists You’ve (Probably) Never Heard Of Vol #7

Okay, so if you were smart enough to buy Zing Tsjeng’s Forgotten Women: The Scientists, you would know that Ada Lovelace appears on page 198. However, that isn’t actually the reason why I wanted to do Ada Lovelace this week. I’m not going to lie – I am a huge royals fan. I love being … Continue reading Showcase Special: Forgotten Women Scientists You’ve (Probably) Never Heard Of Vol #7

Of Course It Was About More Than Dirty Dishes

Must Be This Tall To Ride

But that ain't the truth. The truth is, you are the ignorant. And I am the tyranny of shitty husbands. But I'm trying real hard, guys. I'm trying real hard to be the shepard. (Image/Miramax) But that shit ain’t the truth. The truth is, you are the ignorant. And I am the tyranny of shitty husbands. But I’m trying real hard, guys. I’m trying real hard to be the shepherd. (Image/Miramax)

I thought it was obvious that my wife didn’t—literally—want a divorce because of some dishes left by the sink.

I assumed no adult could possibly believe that. I was wrong.

Because many people gave the post the TL;DR treatment, or I did a lousy job of writing it, or they lacked the intellectual capacity to understand it, or never bothered to ask themselves the right questions because life is more comfortable when we’re secure in our personal beliefs, a frightening amount of people missed the point entirely.

My post “She Divorced Me Because I Left Dishes by the Sink” spent time as one of the most popular things on the internet over the weekend…

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She Divorced Me Because I Left Dishes by the Sink

Must Be This Tall To Ride

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It seems so unreasonable when you put it that way: My wife left me because sometimes I leave dishes by the sink.

It makes her seem ridiculous; and makes me seem like a victim of unfair expectations.

We like to point fingers at other things to explain why something went wrong, like when Biff Tannen crashed George McFly’s car and spilled beer on his clothes, but it was all George’s fault for not telling him the car had a blind spot.

This bad thing happened because of this, that, and the other thing. Not because of anything I did!

Sometimes I leave used drinking glasses by the kitchen sink, just inches away from the dishwasher.

It isn’t a big deal to me now. It wasn’t a big deal to me when I was married. But it WAS a big deal to her.

Every time she’d walk into the kitchen…

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#StopBlamingWomenMakeMenTheIssue: Janice Garrett

— Trigger Warning — The other day, I read an article by Jane Gilmore, discussing that there was no national outrage or outcry, and little had been said in the media, about the fact that just the other week in Australia, six women were murdered in five days. Yes. Six women were murdered in five days. As a result, … Continue reading #StopBlamingWomenMakeMenTheIssue: Janice Garrett