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Like with the “Friendship Breakup” series, over the next few weeks, I’ll be answering commonly asked questions surrounding, specifically, Dr Ford and the entire fiasco that we just watched.
As this topic is of a sensitive nature, and many of you may have questions or stories you’d like to share or have answered, please feel free to drop a message in my Facebook inbox or DM me on my Instagram, @thingscarlaloves. You do not have to share your story in the comment section (or anywhere else) if you do not feel comfortable.
As always, there will be a list of helpline services added, if you need help. I strongly urge that you confide in someone you trust in order to help you heal.
I know there’s a lot of ya’ll who like to pretend like things like white privilege don’t exist, but for those of us living in the real world, we at least understand the basic concept of racism, so while a person might not understand the full extent of white privilege, they do understand the concept of a deep, imbedded racial injustice.
For those that don’t quite understand, I will give a brief explanation, but I’d recommend following Rae over at Bookmark Chronicles, or reading Small Great Things by Jodi Piccoult or The Hate U Give, which is both a novel and a movie (for those that might have a preference).
I think that before understanding white privilege, you need to understand not only the extent and damage past racism has done, nor how the past has forced a systematic racist abuse structure to keep people of colour in lower positions, but you have to accept that racism isn’t dead and buried because we gave Aboriginal people the right to vote in 1965. (For Americans, I’d like to remind you Martin Luther King was extremely unpopular at the time of his assassination, and a large reason for that was because the American government worked incredibly hard to destroy King’s credibility and reputation, which is not a conspiracy theory. However, following the world’s reaction to King’s murder, the story was rewritten, like stories with legends and heroes and martyrs often are. After all, Joan of Arc – and others of her ilk – only become saints because they suffered terribly, usually in some torturous manner of death. Like with the English who had captured Joan of Arc, they needed to destroy her reputation before they could burn a young woman, who had seemingly done nothing but heroics for France in the name of God – something that the American government would try and repeat. Fortunately, it had the same effect as Joan of Arc, and Martin Luther King’s name didn’t disappear into obscurity, no matter how much the rich white men wanted it to.)
The sad truth is that colour matters in every aspect, and as many Black women have pointed out, racism is intrinsically tied to sexism.
Don’t believe me?
How about during Hurricane Katrina, the exact same media source printed a photo depicting the bravery of the white people “searching for food”, they depicted a Black man doing the exact same thing, except his caption alleged he was “looting”?
Or the comparison of Brock Turner’s professional year book photo to an innocent Black teen’s photo, of him wearing a hoodie (and thus implying something more sinister and if I have to explain how that makes someone look bad, I’d like to point out that my year 7’s and 8’s would be able to answer this question, so think real hard before you try and call bullshit) after he’d been murdered by a cop?
What about all the women of colour who were impacted by the #MeToo but were ignored, like the founder, whose name seems all but forgotten (her name is Tarana Burke, in case you don’t know)?
Or Lupita Nyong’o, one of the few women Weinstein adamantly denied sexually assaulting … who is black, in case ya’ll a living in the 18th century and don’t know who she is (she’s a famous actress)?
Perhaps you want to dismiss those cases, because you’ll state that they’re anecdotal, or it just happens sometimes, or I’m biased or being deliberately selective to be divisive or some other conservative bullshit you wanna concoct to help justify your backwards, racist, prejudiced bigoted bullshit), so let’s discuss some facts you can’t deny or explain away.
(Not that that challenge has ever stopped Trump supporters.)
Only 1 in every 16 African-American will report a sexual assault.
Most Asian women don’t report domestic violence or sexual assault due to traditional cultural values.
40% of Black women will report a sexual assault by 18 while 7.9% of Latinas will report being raped by a partner or ex in their lifetime.
Native American women have a 70% higher chance than other women than being sexually assaulted or abused by a non-Native American.
Women of colour have been routinely raped by white men as an effort to eradicate colour and further oppress people of colour. In Australia, children who weren’t considered to be “full blood” by the Government were frequently forcibly removed from their Aboriginal relatives and sent to live in missionaries until 1970.
Despite the fact that some children were taken from their families up until 1970, and many Aboriginal families have never been able to reconcile and have thus become referred to as “The Stolen Generation”, most Australians were furious when Kevin Rudd apologised to Aboriginal people on behalf of the atrocities committed by our not-that-dead ancestors in 2008.
Despite the fact that many white Americans talk about “how slavery ended ages ago”, the Ku Klux Klan were notorious for raping Black women and not being arrested (or even investigated) in an attempt to continue suppressing people of colour.
Young gay men of colour are far more likely to be infected with HIV.
53% of LGBTQIA+ people of colour are victims of hate crimes. The majority of these victims are trans women of colour.
32% of Black transgender people are sexually assaulted in police custody and/or prison.
That’s just ten randomly drawn facts.
They are indisputable, undeniable facts.
Facts that you can Google and check yourself.
Facts that will be linked to sources below.
Facts that aren’t, and can’t possibly be, manipulated for my purposes.
And the facts say that yes, colour really fucking matters when it comes to sexual assault.
It matters because, in your ignorance to say that you are ‘blind to colour’ and you ‘love the human race’, you’re forgetting that the people in power, the people in charge, aren’t ‘blind to colour’.
And they are deliberately refusing to prosecute people – especially white people – who commit sexual assault crimes against people of colour.
Don’t pretend like that’s not a real fucking problem.
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— Sources —
Bachelor of Education: English and History
Diploma in Criminology and Profiling
Diploma in Forensic Science
Background in law and psychology
Teacher 7+ years
Background in special needs, learning support – other specific teaching fields that required hands-on development.
NB: This is a declaration of the background of my personal knowledge, collected over the years via a professional form of education and development. Some of these take the form of actual degrees and others come in the form of necessary professional development. When doing your own, you should always try and verify the person’s credibility. My credibility, nor anyone else’s, is not with their education. Everyone has biases and no one is infallible. I am deliberately including some of my background education to highlight this, because you should be questioning information you are receiving.
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