#WhyIDidn’tReport: But Rape Jokes Are Sooooo Funny!

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Like with the “Friendship Breakup” series, over the next few weeks, I’ll be answering commonly asked questions surrounding, specifically, Dr Ford and the entire fiasco that we just watched. 

As this topic is of a sensitive nature, and many of you may have questions or stories you’d like to share or have answered, please feel free to drop a message in my Facebook inbox or DM me on my Instagram, @thingscarlaloves. You do not have to share your story in the comment section (or anywhere else) if you do not feel comfortable. 

As always, there will be a list of helpline services added, if you need help. I strongly urge that you confide in someone you trust in order to help you heal. 

*NB: Until I am back on my feet, The Leaders will be replaced with misc posts until I’m back on my feet.

Okay, firstly, if you are a rape victim, and you feel that you need to make rape jokes because it genuinely helps you, then I suggest you find a group of people you can comfortably do it around, who won’t be triggered or offended by it. While everyone copes with trauma, please remember most rape victims don’t find rape jokes funny, so you do need to find the right group of people if that’s how you’re going to deal.

For everyone else, no they aren’t.

I don’t give a fuck what your justification or reasoning is. You’re wrong.

You know how I know you’re wrong?

Because pretty much every fucking rape victim tells you this.

Rape jokes can work sometimes.

For example, one of my favourite scenes is ‘Bitch raping time’ in Predators.

Do you know why I find it funny?

Because the other men in the regiment don’t find him funny. It’s evident in Topher Grace’s character, who awkwardly responds, ‘Yeah … be like … five o’clock … bitch raping time. I’m gonna go over here.’

He immediately sits next to a Russian soldier, whose first statement is, ‘Stay away from him.

Topher Grace’s reply is a calmer “No fucking shit” than mine would’ve been.

The joke isn’t on rape victims here. The joke isn’t the rape is funny.

The joke is made when everyone else in the group is repelled by this man.

That’s why I love that scene.

However, most of the time, your rape jokes, the ones you’re desperate for everyone to agree with you that they’re funny (no one’s agreeing with you because you’re wrong, you dipshit) because they don’t empower the victim or highlight that rape isn’t a joking matter (like in Predators).

You’re putting it on the victim.

It’s the victim you’re humiliating, not the perpetrator.

When you say ‘Yeah, but it’s humour’, why do you find it funny to taunt, humiliate, belittle and further traumatise a rape victim?

Don’t say that’s an exaggeration, because rape victims keep telling you that’s what you’re doing, so you fucking know it.

So why do you find it so enjoyable to see the suffering of rape victims? Why do you think your humour is so dependent on your derision of rape victims?

Why, if it’s meant to be empowering, are you so intent on empowering rapists and not actual rape victims?

If you’re an MRA, why aren’t you outraged every time a man says that he ‘wishes he had a teacher like that’, every time a boy is raped by an attractive female teacher?

Below: All the TW for male rape, in particular, in video.

Is it because the truth is that rape jokes have never been intended be funny, never intended to empower anyone but the rapist, because rape has always been about oppression and control?

And if rape victims talk about how these jokes do exactly that – oppress victims and support rapists – and they’re right, then your problem with feminists stating that ‘Rape jokes aren’t funny’ is because you know I’m right.

That you’re supporting rapists, and all your ‘good mates’ that would ‘never do that’.

But like Hannah Gadsby said, Kevin is drawn. He is our line in the sand.

And the rest of the men need to fuck off. Including Kevin, whose names is to never be mentioned again.

In Emergencies: 000

Lifeline Australia: 13 11 14


MensLine Australia: 1300 78 99 78




— Sources —


Bachelor of Education: English and History

Diploma in Criminology and Profiling

Diploma in Forensic Science

Background in law and psychology

Teacher 7+ years

Background in special needs, learning support – other specific teaching fields that required hands-on development.

NB: This is a declaration of the background of my personal knowledge, collected over the years via a professional form of education and development. Some of these take the form of actual degrees and others come in the form of necessary professional development. When doing your own research, you should always try and verify the person’s credibility. My credibility, nor anyone else’s, is not with their education. Everyone has biases and no one is infallible. I am deliberately including some of my background education to highlight this, because you should be questioning information you are receiving.

External Sources

Toyah Cordingley

Search for evidence – Toyah

Potential Witnesses – Toyah

Eurydice Dixon

Man Charged With Dixon Murder

Larissa Beilby

Alleged Murderer

Accessories to Larissa’s murder

Jane Gilmore

National Emergency

Various people over from Hunt A Killer

Violence Against Women

Flight, Fight, Freeze and Faint

Dr Ford’s Testimony

Kavanaugh’s Testimony

Time’s Article on Ford vs Kavanaugh 

FBI Investigation Letter

Amal Clooney on Trump

Trump Mocks Ford

Mark Judge’s Book Confirms Timeline

Trump’s Lack of Empathy

Sexual Assault

Men Too

Sunrise – Junkee

Why You Should Think Twice

What Do We Learn From Rape Jokes

Way Too Many 80’s Movies Treat Rape As A Joke

Male Rape

Rape Jokes

Rape Jokes Aren’t Funny

Why Rape Jokes Aren’t Funny

What To Say When Someone Makes A Joke

Female Teachers and Rape


11 thoughts on “#WhyIDidn’tReport: But Rape Jokes Are Sooooo Funny!

    • thingscarlaloves says:

      Same here. I even stopped speaking to my cousin, who’s always been more like a big brother, because of this. I asked him to stop – and it was more than just rape jokes, it was racism, sexism, everything-ism – and I was like, ‘Look, I just lost another student because of this crap’ (he hates trans people) and he didn’t even respond, and I was like, ‘Fine. Done. Don’t want you in my life.’

      I think that sometimes it’s important to cut certain people out. If people can’t understand why their comments – intentional or not – are hurting you so badly, then they don’t overly care for you. It sounds like you made the right decision. How are you?


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