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Okay, firstly, if you are a rape victim, and you feel that you need to make rape jokes because it genuinely helps you, then I suggest you find a group of people you can comfortably do it around, who won’t be triggered or offended by it. While everyone copes with trauma, please remember most rape victims don’t find rape jokes funny, so you do need to find the right group of people if that’s how you’re going to deal.
For everyone else, no they aren’t.
I don’t give a fuck what your justification or reasoning is. You’re wrong.
You know how I know you’re wrong?
Rape jokes can work sometimes.
For example, one of my favourite scenes is ‘Bitch raping time’ in Predators.
Do you know why I find it funny?
Because the other men in the regiment don’t find him funny. It’s evident in Topher Grace’s character, who awkwardly responds, ‘Yeah … be like … five o’clock … bitch raping time. I’m gonna go over here.’
He immediately sits next to a Russian soldier, whose first statement is, ‘Stay away from him.’
Topher Grace’s reply is a calmer “No fucking shit” than mine would’ve been.
The joke isn’t on rape victims here. The joke isn’t the rape is funny.
The joke is made when everyone else in the group is repelled by this man.
That’s why I love that scene.
However, most of the time, your rape jokes, the ones you’re desperate for everyone to agree with you that they’re funny (no one’s agreeing with you because you’re wrong, you dipshit) because they don’t empower the victim or highlight that rape isn’t a joking matter (like in Predators).
You’re putting it on the victim.
It’s the victim you’re humiliating, not the perpetrator.
When you say ‘Yeah, but it’s humour’, why do you find it funny to taunt, humiliate, belittle and further traumatise a rape victim?
Don’t say that’s an exaggeration, because rape victims keep telling you that’s what you’re doing, so you fucking know it.
So why do you find it so enjoyable to see the suffering of rape victims? Why do you think your humour is so dependent on your derision of rape victims?
Why, if it’s meant to be empowering, are you so intent on empowering rapists and not actual rape victims?
If you’re an MRA, why aren’t you outraged every time a man says that he ‘wishes he had a teacher like that’, every time a boy is raped by an attractive female teacher?
Below: All the TW for male rape, in particular, in video.
Is it because the truth is that rape jokes have never been intended be funny, never intended to empower anyone but the rapist, because rape has always been about oppression and control?
And if rape victims talk about how these jokes do exactly that – oppress victims and support rapists – and they’re right, then your problem with feminists stating that ‘Rape jokes aren’t funny’ is because you know I’m right.
That you’re supporting rapists, and all your ‘good mates’ that would ‘never do that’.
But like Hannah Gadsby said, Kevin is drawn. He is our line in the sand.
And the rest of the men need to fuck off. Including Kevin, whose names is to never be mentioned again.
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Bachelor of Education: English and History
Diploma in Criminology and Profiling
Diploma in Forensic Science
Background in law and psychology
Teacher 7+ years
Background in special needs, learning support – other specific teaching fields that required hands-on development.
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