#StopBlamingWomenMakeMenTheIssue: Toyah Cordingley (Update)

— Trigger Warning —

Last year, I read an article by Jane Gilmore, discussing that there was no national outrage or outcry, and little had been said in the media, about the fact that just the other week in Australia, six women were murdered in five days.


Six women were murdered in five days.

As nothing has changed, I’m continuing with this same theme in 2019, and women murdered at the result of male violence will be featured on every Thursday post, as well as an entry from The Ex Files

I would also like to take this opportunity to note that during this time, White Ribbon has decided that it wants to be “agnostic” when it comes to women seeking safe and legal abortions. They recently, and very publicly, admitted that they were putting money before the lives of women. White Ribbon has always been problematic as fuck, but I want you to blow this shit open. As White Ribbon and Scott Morrison and our Australian government tries to backtrack for openly fucking women over in 2018 and publicly admitting money meant more to them than women’s health, I urge you to crucify and bury both. I urge you to show Australia, our PM, and our government that WOMEN’S RIGHTS FUCKING MATTER AND WE’RE SICK OF WOMEN DYING AND OUR GOVERNMENT DOING JACKSHIT. 


As always, there will be hotline information at the bottom of the page, and you are always welcome to contact me on Facebook or DM me on my Instagram @thingscarlaloves if you need to talk to someone.

If you are aware that someone might be in danger, I implore you to please speak up. You may be wrong, but you may also save someone’s life.

When I first started this series, I called it ‘Sticks and Stones’.

And then, one day, Toyah Cordingley was walking her dog along the beach when someone decided to rape and murder her.

Toyah Cordingley with her boyfriend Marco Heidenreich.

Toyah Cordingley PC: News.com.au

Before she was murdered, she’d protested against Eurydice Dixon’s murder – one that would follow an eerily similar fashion to Toyah’s – and she tweeted:

“Stop blaming women, make men the problem.”

In her honour, I thought that the hashtag Toyah had been promoting before her violent murder was far more appropriate.

Like with Nicole Cartwright, Toyah’s murderer is still at large.

I normally don’t like to share anything sensational, in any form, and deliberately omit facts, but before I ask you to share Toyah’s name, to bring up Toyah with your friends and colleagues, to see if anyone anywhere knows anything about what could have happened, I’m going to paste Toyah’s step-father’s heartbreaking Facebook post.

It won’t be easy to read, I promise you.

I don’t cry very much, and I cried. I’m not going to pretend like that post didn’t hit me in all the feels.

But, if you can, please read it.

The December 1 post by Toyah Cordingley’s stepfather Darren Gardiner has been shared more than 16,000 times in just five days. Picture: Facebook

Sometimes we don’t know we know something important.

Sometimes we’re afraid, and it takes enormous bravery and courage to come forward as a witness, especially if you’re afraid of the person who committed said crime.

But you can be anonymous.

It doesn’t have to have your name attached to it.

Toyah should be alive today, but she’s not, because a man violently raped and murdered her.

Toyah should be living her life.

But she’s not.

She’s dead, because someone decided to murder her, and the police have no solid leads on who committed this violent crime.

Please take a moment to think of Toyah’s face.

Think about the pain and agony her parents have been going through, and how it would feel to know that, after your daughter has been raped and murdered, you didn’t know who the killer was.

Or where the killer was.

How would you even know if you passed them in the street?

Like Nicole, Toyah’s murderer is still out there.

Which means that there’s more than one unmasked murderer among you.

In Emergencies: 000

Lifeline Australia: 13 11 14


MensLine Australia: 1300 78 99 78




— Sources —


Bachelor of Education: English and History

Diploma in Criminology and Profiling

Diploma in Forensic Science

Background in law and psychology

Teacher 7+ years

Background in special needs, learning support – other specific teaching fields that required hands-on development.

NB: This is a declaration of the background of my personal knowledge, collected over the years via a professional form of education and development. Some of these take the form of actual degrees and others come in the form of necessary professional development. When doing your own research, you should always try and verify the person’s credibility. My credibility, nor anyone else’s, is not with their education. Everyone has biases and no one is infallible. I am deliberately including some of my background education to highlight this, because you should be questioning information you are receiving.

External Sources

Aiia Maasarewe – ABC

Sickening Social Media Post – Aiia Maasarewe

Aiia Maasarewe: What We Know

Residents to Pay Tribute

Police Arrest: Aiia’s Alleged Killer

Gillette Ad

Gillette Ad The Today Show

Toxic Masculinity

Toyah Cordingley

Search for evidence – Toyah

Potential Witnesses – Toyah

Eurydice Dixon

Man Charged With Dixon Murder

Larissa Beilby

Alleged Murderer

Accessories to Larissa’s murder

Jane Gilmore

National Emergency

Various people over from Hunt A Killer

Violence Against Women

Flight, Fight, Freeze and Faint

Dr Ford’s Testimony

Kavanaugh’s Testimony

Time’s Article on Ford vs Kavanaugh 

FBI Investigation Letter

Amal Clooney on Trump

Trump Mocks Ford

Mark Judge’s Book Confirms Timeline

Trump’s Lack of Empathy

Sexual Assault

And if in doubt, please use CARS, because you’ve got to start learning what information to trust and why you’re trusting it. Also, if you want more sources than provided, fuck off and learn how to use Google.



Is the claim credible? Is the author writing biased? Is the author credible? An elite education doesn’t make someone more or less credible, so you often have to look beyond a person’s education background. 


Do the claims fit in to an accurate timeline? Do the claims made by the author reasonably stand up? If you’re seeing a lot of inaccuracies, especially against the timeline the person is creating, you need to consider if the claim is accurate. Context is often key.


Mostly, this comes down to whether or not the person is clearly creating a bias. Obviously, everyone has biases. I try and declare mine at the bottom of every post that I think would benefit from extra sources. I freely admit that I definitely have biases, prejudices and will obviously write in a way that conveys what I believe is the truth. That doesn’t mean I’m always right – which is why reasonableness is so important. Everyone is biased, and it’s virtually impossible to not impose your belief, in some form, while sharing. But if the person is deliberately manipulating facts, or omitting information, then they are an untrustworthy source (here’s looking at you, Fox).


Basically, this comes down to whether or not you can find “support” for the claims made. In anything professional, like an essay or journal article, references are essential. However, information can come from popular media sites, or from TV shows/movies, that might require YOU to do some work. I know that conservatives, in particular, seem to detest this as they seem to believe that the other person needs to do all the work, but that’s not how you actually learn. You learn by taking the information and researching it yourself. If you refuse to do this, which is an important part of the process, you will never truly progress in your own education. Out of everything here, I honestly believe this is the most important. If you are unwilling to research things on your own, and instead demand someone else to do the work for you, you have no interest in learning or understanding a different position. You are looking for confirmation bias. 

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