“In Psychology, we learn that correlation does not prove causation, the same is true in this instance. Your level of positivity does not determine how strong you are. Furthermore, you can still be strong but not be or feel positive. They are not one in the same. You can also be positive and not be or feel strong, these two characteristics are interchangeable, you don’t have to be all or nothing. It is okay to feel angry, sad, frustrated, or hurt at what has happened or what is happening. It is okay to acknowledge that a situation sucks or that it’s just overall a negative situation to be in. Give yourself the space to feel whatever it is you feel, even if those feelings aren’t too pretty. That’s what Lisa meant when she said “Your strength is determined by how much space you hold for ALL parts of you.” Those negative feelings are still valid. You don’t have to force yourself to feel happy about something that you truly aren’t happy about. You don’t have to put on a brave face and disregard your actual feelings all in the name of strength. While you may not want to dwell in an area of negativity, those feelings are still 100% valid, 100% yours, and you should own them. True strength lies in acknowledging those feelings and making the conscious effort to continue putting one foot in front of the other and moving forward. That is it. True strength does NOT lie in how much positivity you exude.”
There’s a page on Instagram that I follow that belongs to a therapist – her handle is @lisaoliveratherapy – and she is awesome. She’s truly #TherapistGoals! If you don’t already follow her, I recommend you check her out she has something for everybody on there. Anywho, the other day she posted about strength and positivity and it really put some things in perspective for me. The photo read “Your strength is not determined by how positive you are. Your strength is determined by how much space you hold for ALL parts of you.” In her caption she went on to dissect that quote and explain in depth how it applies to life. The first line of the caption read “There is a myth that positivity is strength.” This post really spoke to me especially in my current situation and I’m here to debunk that myth!
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