Ask Carla: What Is Gaslighting?

Every Tuesday, I answer questions usually surrounded by themes (domestic violence, friendship break ups, sexual assault). However, sometimes questions go beyond that, and therefore I'll be creating a mini, more spontaneous "Ask Carla" Tuesday posts. Please feel free to ask any questions you'd like answered/topics you'd like discussed! Gaslighting is like the new buzz word. … Continue reading Ask Carla: What Is Gaslighting?

#ButWhyDoesn’tSheLeave: Why I Keep Everything – Johnny Depp & Amber Heard

— Trigger and Content Warning — Like with the “Friendship Breakup” series, over the next few weeks, I’ll be answering commonly asked questions surrounding, specifically, Dr Ford and the entire fiasco that we just watched.  The three sections I’ll be heavily focusing on will be: #ButWhyDoesn’tSheLeave,#ButDon’tYouWantToGetBetter, as well as #WhyIDidn’tReport.  As this topic is of a sensitive nature, and … Continue reading #ButWhyDoesn’tSheLeave: Why I Keep Everything – Johnny Depp & Amber Heard

Today I Learned … (Vol #2)

I don't know if you know this, but there's this little known show that's not really popular. You've probably never heard of it. It's called Game of Thrones. I know. Sounds obscure, right? I'm kidding. I know all of ya are more excited about the next GoT episode than you are about Easter (or at least … Continue reading Today I Learned … (Vol #2)

So You Want To Be A Writer: Tips, Tricks & Ideas Vol #11

This one's so simple, so easy, but it's something that we tend to overlook. Read books, magazines, graphic novels. Read novels you wouldn't normally like. Why? Because you need to see what you don't like, and why. Read novels that are cheap, easy, "popcorn". They're easy, but still immersive. Just because a book's popcorn doesn't mean the … Continue reading So You Want To Be A Writer: Tips, Tricks & Ideas Vol #11

Why I Love Taylor Swift

Look, I get why some of you've asked. I’m a very opinionated, stubborn, outspoken feminist, and Taylor Swift hasn’t really aligned herself in politics and shit - at least, not until lately. And yeah, I could just be like, “problematic fave”, but I actually want to answer this question. It’s a question I was asked … Continue reading Why I Love Taylor Swift

12 F/F Books You Need On Your TBR!

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Hi all!

I absolutely love romance novels. They may not be for everyone, but I adore them. Even when I’m reading a fantasy novel or a sci-fi or any genre book, I need to have at least a smidgen of romance to keep me invested. Don’t get me wrong, I still really enjoy those types of books without romance, so long as the writing and the characters and the world-building is great, but I always prefer romance.

So! I thought I’d share some of my favourite books with f/f romance — either as the main storyline or as a subset of the plot.

Here’s a little representation key so you know what rep to expect from each book!
💖 = lesbian
💜 = bisexual
💚 = pansexual
🧡 = characters of colour
💙 = gender non-conforming

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The Priory of the Orange Tree by Samantha Shannon

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Rep: 💖🧡

“I realised, that she had been spoon-fed…

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Hiding Behind Patriotism

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Members of the New England Patriots kneel during the national anthem Sunday. Photo: Billie Weiss/Getty Images

Well, once again the covfefe has hit the fan, courtesy of Mr. Trump, our fearless leader. All of you have seen and heard by now his staunch defense of the national anthem and his urging of sports team owners to fire any player who takes a knee while the anthem is playing. But here’s the thing. Have you all noticed a pattern emerging in Mr. Trump’s more outrageous and divisive words and actions? Every single time he creates a controversy there are other things going on. If he’s a master of anything, it’s manipulation and misdirection. So, whatever could he trying to deflect attention from this time?

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1. The imminent demise of the Republicans’ second attempt, since Mr. Trump took office, to repeal and replace the Affordable Care Act. Mr. Trump has been cajoling…

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Slavery and Chocolate: Some Not-So-Sweet Truths

“Namely, there is a good chance that the chocolate you eat was made by slaves. But not just any slaves. Child labor.

A variety of sources have widely reported on how the three major American chocolate manufacturers—Hershey, Nestlé, and Mars (the makers of M&Ms)—all produce chocolate made with child labor. It has been a persistent problem, and a problem that isn’t getting resolved quickly.”

Blind Injustice

Every Valentine’s Day, Easter, birthday, and Christmas, many of us in the United States like to give chocolate to friends and/or family. Most of us look forward to getting that sweet goodness during those times of year.

For better or for worse, I’m about to sour that sweetness because of some ugly truths about slavery and chocolate.

Namely, there is a good chance that the chocolate you eat was made by slaves. But not just any slaves. Child labor.

A variety of sources have widely reported on how the three major American chocolate manufacturers—Hershey, Nestlé, and Mars (the makers of M&Ms)—all produce chocolate made with child labor. It has been a persistent problem, and a problem that isn’t getting resolved quickly.

Fortune Magazine best describes this problem in an article they wrote about the issue:
“The major chocolate companies—from Mars to Nestlé to Hershey—are heavily reliant on these countries…

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The Mueller Report

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I was up until about 1:00 in the morning reading the report and now have a migraine, so this is going to be a fairly brief post. I just want to share a few thoughts.

1. The 148 page report is split into two volumes. The first deals with conspiracy/collusion, the second, obstruction of justice. While I agree there’s not enough evidence to prove that Mr. Trump and his campaign conspired with Russia to steal the election, they had much too cozy a relationship for my comfort. The report is clear that the Russian government attempted to help Trump win; the Trump campaign was all too willing to embrace hacking that targeted Clinton and the Democrats; the campaign had many concerning ties to Russia. 

2. In the second volume Mueller looked at ten instances of possible obstruction of justice. Three of the more troubling of these were: Trump directing then…

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You Deserve More – Nurt Thursday…On Friday

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Nurture Thursday – You Deserve More

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I absolutely agree with this statement. You deserve better than that. Trust me. One of the best things I found when I let go of my toxic friendships, were the good friends that I had around me. When you actually have the time for the good people in your life, you don’t even think about the bad.

So, stop, right this second, trying to please them. You deserve better than this. I know, being a good person and someone who believes in good, it can be so hard to let go, but it’ll be worth it! You will see the change in yourself and those around you. The problem with trying to be your best for someone who isn’t worth it, is the time you waste in your life trying to please them. When you stop, you will see how much time you have…

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