So, You Want To Be A Writer: Tips, Tricks & Ideas Vol #8


I haven’t actually had anyone complain about needing more followers since my first (now-deleted) blog, The Melodramatic Confessions of Carla Louise.

That may be because if you’re obtuse enough to whine to me about something like likes or follows – especially if it’s coming from a point of extreme vanity, and has no focus whatsoever on your writing (I’m making a clear distinction here because my point is on insights and how to use them to your advantage) – I’m going to tell you to fuck off.

And please don’t call me out on my language only when I’m disagreeing with you.

I swear all the fucking time, you pumpkin fuckers. So if it’s a problem, call me out when I’m not pissing you off.

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Which is basically never, but whatever Karen.

However, I do know from Rae at Bookmark Chronicles that some people get really obsessive with likes, views and follows.

This is not about that, and if you’re one of those people, I suggest you readjust your priorities because writing is not the industry for you.

I’m not kidding. There’s not a huge chance you’ll make a ton of money or become a celebrity or anything from writing, and if that’s your goal, you should just audition for Married At First Sight or some shit, because you’ll get people to follow you and like you that way.

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Also, is that Tara Reid? 

However, I can understand that sometimes you write something that you think is brilliant, and no one likes or even sees it, can sometimes be devastating – especially if you’re pouring your heart and soul into your work.

When I first wrote The Friendship Breakup – my very first piece – I never expected it to be so popular. Part of the reason I wrote it was for me – to provide therapy for something I didn’t understand what or why it was happening – but another part was that everyone I asked about it said the exact same things: The first one being it had happened to them, and it was one of the most devastating things that had ever occurred and the second one being that it was just a friend, and therefore I should get over it.

Both of those things confused me because if everyone had a story, why was no one talking about it?

And more importantly, if everyone had made a big deal about the anguish and heartbreak they’d faced when losing a friend, why were the same people also saying – in the exact same breath – to just ‘get over it’?

So I wrote the piece, and it wasn’t just successful on my blog – it was also republished on a variety of different sites, including Thought Catalog – and I was flooded with comments and questions.

People didn’t just want to know more about my story, they also wanted to share theirs and ask questions.

Mostly, though, people were grateful that it wasn’t just them, that they weren’t alone.

The most common question I was asked by people going through a friendship breakup was a despairing, “What is wrong with me?”

Because of the excellent feedback I received from my initial friendship breakup posts, I started to write more and more, incensed by just how much people wanted them.

But, not every piece touches someone.

And that’s where your insights come into play.

Like how it is important to connect with both your community and your audience, you should also pay attention to your insights to see what people do want.

Look at your insights: What posts perform better than others?

And why?

Is it the content you’re writing about?

Is it accessible to a wide range of people?

Is it something people are interested in?

And if there are posts that aren’t performing as well, also ask why

Use this information to refine your posts, to help you decide what to post – and, potentially, even what day to post.

Your insights are there to help you.

So use them.




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13 thoughts on “So, You Want To Be A Writer: Tips, Tricks & Ideas Vol #8

    • thingscarlaloves says:

      I like to schedule my posts mostly for pretty early in the morning, so that there’s an entire day for Australians to see my post. So if they’ve subscribed, they can maybe read it before work or something. I don’t know if it makes it better, but it’s what I decided on!


  1. Bryan Fagan says:

    You wrote The Friendship Breakup for you and that is key.

    If a writer starts out with an attitude that they must write for the masses they are screwed. Tell something that comes from your heart. Don’t give a shit about anything else. When your heart bleeds others may follow.

    Excellent stuff. Dig it!!!

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    • thingscarlaloves says:

      Definitely! I had no idea that it would be so popular. And I couldn’t agree more – and I hope I didn’t give that impression. I simply mean that insights are an excellent place to see how posts are performing, if people are interested in that kind of thing. But like I’ve said, probably in this post (I can’t remember for sure, I’m sorry!), blogging is not for people who want to be rich. Or famous. Or any of that.

      It definitely needs to come from your heart. I couldn’t have put it better than you did – except now I’m slightly worried my message was off! But thank you ❤

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  2. Bryan Fagan says:

    Your message was not off in any way. I thought your words were brilliant. Absolutely spot on.

    It’s easy to spot a blogger who writes from the heart versus those who are trying to gather followers. You’re doing your thing and I respect the hell out of that. 🙂

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    • thingscarlaloves says:

      Aww thank you so much!! I can’t see the point in trying to obsess over followers. For what?? To spend all my millions of dollars I won’t make??

      Liked by 1 person

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