Isn’t That How Equality Works?

In relation to yesterday’s ranty post, this picture was also posted in response to my comment (reason? I’m not sure. A lot of things were posted in response to my comment about feminism. If you missed yesterday’s post, you can find it here: She’s A Bitch).

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This picture, in particular, really bugged me. In fact, it infuriated me. I didn’t respond to the commenter because, well, trolls. And I figured he’d be too obtuse to get it … and I’d be giving him the exact reaction he wanted.

To me, this picture’s comment does have a point – one that I’ve mentioned many times before – that men can be sexually assaulted.

However, let’s be fair and realistic; it’s not that common for a woman to get a man drunk (and/or spike his drink) with the sole intention of raping him. Even if Josie did really want to have sex with Jake, she doesn’t look strong enough to carry him out of the bar – so Josie’s going to have to get Jake drunk at her place or his, which is a lot of carry out (and an unlikely situation). It’s also likely that certain … male parts … won’t work, if he’s too drunk (unless she’s also spiking him with Viagra, and then we really need to be concerned about Josie. She sounds like a psychopath). My point, more simply, is that women are less likely to commit this specific act. (I imagine women would use men’s masculinity against them, as opposed to outright drugging them, manipulating them and coercing them into sexual acts that they might not otherwise consent to, or even want to consent to.)

Men, on the other hand, commit this crime regularly. Men often have the intention of going out to bars to “pick up women”. I know it’s not all men. I know a lot of men have standards, or think certain things about sex, but let’s face it – stereotypically, it’s often more of a man’s agenda than a woman’s. That doesn’t mean a woman doesn’t want casual sex, or can’t go after casual sex, but sex shaming is a big deal to women – you know, men are heroes and women are sluts?

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And what’s worse is that movies like American Pie really perpetuate the myth that it’s a great idea to get a girl really drunk so she’ll say yes. She’ll regret it in the morning, but you got laid dude! Nothing else matters!

And this idea is extremely important to abolish because, like the actual poster says, it is rape if the woman (or man) is too intoxicated to fully consent. It’s important to abolish this idea, and not make it a joke about “equality” and “feminism” and those damn “feminazis” because some young men could genuinely ruin their lives if they are not aware of the truth: if a woman is too intoxicated, you could potentially be raping her. Please believe me – some young men do believe it’s okay to have sex with drunk chicks – I’ve taught young men who’ve asked me if it’s okay, and been genuinely shocked when I’ve said no, the woman can turn around and say it’s rape. I’m not saying she will, even if she does regret her decision, but she can, and it’s fully within her legal rights (at least in Australia, and I don’t think Australia’s the only country where this is the case).

Also, regretting your decision is not the same as rape. If you wake up regretting who you’ve slept with, you cannot then decide it’s rape. What I am specifically referring to is not “drunk sex”; I’m talking about when a person is too drunk to be making any decisions that don’t involve drinking water and sleeping it off. You cannot try and use this law, and the creation of better consent legislation and understanding, because of life choices you come to regret. 

The issue isn’t about men vs women. It isn’t about equality. It’s about making sure men don’t buy into the American Pie theory that getting women drunk is the best way to get laid.

It’s also about understanding that one in five women have been sexually assaulted. That means, chances are, if ten women are reading this blog today, at least two of them (statistically) have likely faced this – and someone’s making a joke out of it. It’s about understanding the fact that women are frequent and likely targets for drink-spiking – and some men often like to take advantage of that (or are the direct cause of it).

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And now some wanker thinks he’s smart for pulling the “Oh, but you wanted equality” card is making light of not only a serious issue, but any woman who’s been in this situation – where her drink’s been spiked, she’s been too drunk, and some guy has tried to (or successfully) taken advantage of her.

Equality is not something to be ashamed for wanting. Feminists should not have to be shamed for wanting equal rights – for everyone – and no one should have to write a fucking blog post explaining why you’re a dickhead for screaming “EQUALITY!” when trying to press upon young men what consent actually is.

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But good for you, whoever originally created that (and the tossers that keep posting it around). I hope you’re really fucking proud of making women who have been raped feel like it’s an equality thing because the same thing might happen to a man, despite being well aware that Australia has a violence against women issue.

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37 thoughts on “Isn’t That How Equality Works?

  1. Ariel Lynn says:

    Hey sweetie! I looks like you forgot to link back to “She’s a B—-” at the end of your first paragraph. I’d be super sad if you didn’t get the redirected readers to your first post!!

    (Also, I can’t remember if you asked for me to email these lil issues or if it’s OK to point it out in the comments. Please feel free to remind me! Whatever’s best for you! 😘 )

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    • thingscarlaloves says:

      Thank you so much!!! Sorry, some really personal stuff has come up which is why I’m all silent on the Western front, with just a few randomly scheduled pieces. I promise I’ll email you soon and explain!!

      I don’t mind – I’m so grateful either way! Comments or emails is honestly fine!! Thank you so much for letting me know x

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      • Ariel Lynn says:

        I figured there was stuff going on, same as I assume you do when I take a week to respond. Stop apologizing, darling!

        Do email me when you get a chance. Take your time, though, seriously.

        Thanks for letting me know! I’m going to keep doing it in comments for now so I don’t have to direct you to exactly where I noticed a missing comma or something. LOL

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  2. asher slade says:

    Oh joy I am so glad you came across my radar …. Saddle up buttercup cause this is not my first rodeo with some feminist bullshit merchant. One the 1 in 5 stat is flawed at best https://www.washingtonexaminer.com/no-1-in-5-women-have-not-been-raped-on-college-campuses
    Two the poster is more of a way to say when both are drinking who is the rapist if they both are drunk who raped whom?
    Three does it not enter your feminist mind that Alcohol and other substances are social lubricants young people drink to calm their nerves mostly in college where most people experiment sexually.
    Four I do so love how you demonize men who choose to pick women up at bars. Sure are there better places for such social interaction yeah I would say so . Your ilk keeps demonizing men and then complain where have all the good men gone . I can tell you where they went some good men had their lives ruined on false charges and are sitting in a jail cell cause some woman regretted the sex after the fact or she decided to use the false claim as revenge. Other men have chosen to give up dating and gone their own way . The other good men are guy your ilk would not piss on if they were on fire cause they are not good looking enough nor do they have the Status and money most women demand a man have due to her hypergamy . Men are willing to date down on average women usually are not willing to do so unless she knows he is about to make a ton of money .

    Oh Darth hi buddy your female feminist owner has let you back online again . Must be fun in your echo chamber .

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      • thingscarlaloves says:

        I received my Bachelor’s Degree in Sacrificing Incel Men Who Annoy Me. It’s been really rewarding. It was just the Winter Solstice, so we had a big massacre then. You should have joined.

        What’s your degree? Something boring? It sounds pretty boring. During the Ides of July, I’ll be hosting another massacre. I’d love for you to be my next sacrifice. It only requires light mutilation, torture and death. Unless your degree is interesting. I tend to keep men who have interesting degrees, because then they serve a purpose.

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      • asher slade says:

        Ahh using the absurd to try and take a swing at me . If I for one min thought you actually killed men I would report your ass for it .Since it is likely bullshit have fun with your larping . My degree is none of your concern . Because your opinion on my life has zero meaning to me . I do so find humor in your feeble attempt at insulting me by calling me an incel . Sorry but I do not seek validation via sex most sane men don’t .

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      • asher slade says:

        I also feel bad for any males you may be a teacher of cause I can infer you treat the males like crap while letting female students do as they wish . As well as grading the boys lower on average than the girls for you know equality Feminist version of it .

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      • thingscarlaloves says:

        Ha ha ha ha it’s fine. I mostly feel sorry for him because he’s beyond pathetic. I don’t think he even realises how contradictory he is, or how illogical. But people like that never do, and sometimes they’re fun to play with.

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      • darthtimon says:

        At one point I had a *crumb* of sympathy for him, given his history, but that’s been swiftly eroded by his refusal to be logical and rational. My conversations with him were fun, then a slog, and finally boring, so I cut him loose!

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      • thingscarlaloves says:

        I don’t have any sympathy for someone filled with so much hate. I know what you mean – I like toying with trolls, but usually they’re a bit more fun. Not necessarily more intelligent, but like, at least they sometimes have a touch of wit.

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      • asher slade says:

        Ahh cause I am not some good lil male feminist slave my intellect is in question Sorry I am not some far left collectivist who take orders from the feminist hive mind

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      • thingscarlaloves says:

        No, because I literally answered every question in your first comment in my post, so all the things you raised had, you know, already been addressed, to the point where I had certain things in bold and underlined. If your inability to read is that low, and your only points are things I’ve answered, means I can never have any kind of intelligent, productive conversation with you – for the obvious reasons.

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      • asher slade says:

        Okay buttercup You say only teach boys consent Equality would be teaching everyone what consent really is . You act as if only men can be rapists when Sexually predatory women exist at least in the States We have female teachers raping young boys and female correction officers in juvenile wards raping young boys . Tell a male rape victim he means nothing cause it happens more to women is the kind of bullshit that makes my blood boil . I was raped as a teen by both a female staff member and 2 male staffers in a mental ward … Guess how my fantastic feminist mother reacted … She said good you males deserve to be raped

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      • thingscarlaloves says:

        Rape is a despicable, inhumane trauma that should never be inflicted upon anyone. No one should ever say that rape is less traumatic because the victim is a man; and it’s a horrific misconception. I recently protested a female teacher’s lack of conviction in a rape case in Australia recently. So did Clementine Ford. I also detest how movies make light of a man waking up and not remembering being with a woman, and this is celebrated, when we all know it’d be a Criminal Minds episode if it were a woman.

        No one deserves to be raped.

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      • asher slade says:

        Well Clementine Ford is a vile woman so she gets no credit for having a rational stance. You might detest it but feminism does or says fuck all about depictions of a negative depiction of male victims . It’s Just you cunt with your male tears cups cheering it on . Also I do not for one min think you give a single fuck about male victims are any male issue .

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      • asher slade says:

        Also If I truly hated women with the issues I got Health WISE I would take revenge … But unlike Feminists who get off on killing ie abortions I have some value in human life even the lives of people I despise for the Ideology they push

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      • asher slade says:

        Your ilk can never have anything but distasin for men who choose not to bow to the misandry of feminism . My history has created the man I am today . The world can either break you make you an asshole or turn you into a good lil slave of feminism and gynocentrism

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      • darthtimon says:

        You keep utterly misrepresenting feminism because you’re determined to see this via one specific lens. Whatever your history, whatever you’ve been through, eventually you have to realise you are using it to create unfair stereotypes and character assassinations in sweeping ways, which isn’t accurate or remotely fair. We have done this dance several times, you are already aware of how you cloud the issues we discuss. You can either take the blinkers off or somehow enjoy being an asshole who gets things wrong. Up to you.

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      • asher slade says:

        So I can either be my own man or bow down to feminism and BE A SLAVE TO SOME WOMAN…. Hmm I chose to stand and die on my feet over living on my knee like you and other feminists demand

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      • darthtimon says:

        Not the argument made and not the choices on offer. You can however, come to realise that your gross mischaracterisations of feminism and women need addressing. You can focus your anger on where it actually belongs.

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      • asher slade says:

        Ahh so forced drugging drug pushers aka mental healthcare workers who tackle things one of 2 ways drug and lock you up or try and treat you as if you are a woman since that is how they are taught to treat patients

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      • asher slade says:

        My characterizations are based off every woman I have had in my life. They see men as meal tickets free labor and or emotional tampon to use abuse then discard . Mine Characterizations of feminism come form how your like acts .. Big red, Clementine Ford, Jess Philips,Dorkin , Gloria Stienum , Jessica Valenti all notable figures in your movement who all are misandrists. Us men who oppose feminism are forced to answer for Elliot Rodger and others constantly by your side . But you refuse to answer for them or hell even condemn their actions and statements . Face it men are facing some real issues and sorry to go against your religion of feminism but feminism is not the right place for men’s issues to be addressed . Can we at least agree that feminism is not the movement to solve everything in society?

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      • asher slade says:

        I simply see what feminism wants from men and society at large via the actions of your ilk calling for death and castration of all men accusing all men of being rapists and say no woman ever makes a false claim so men accused should just be found guilty on her word alone …. If big if Feminism only wanted actual equality between men and women … I would not agree but my blinding hate might be less extreme . Or hell even if feminism stopped lying and saying its for everyone and that it only wants equality under the law and they admitted they only care about the issues women face maybe id soften a bit. But no your clan of cunts claims it is the only equality movement that is legit and attack men’s groups for daring to exist even ones who just push for father’s rights . Trust me they are the most mild milk toast type of MRA’s and they just wanna be allowed to see their kids. There are a lot worse guys in mens groups

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      • asher slade says:

        Dude for real if you lived through one 10th of the shit I have you would have already taken your own life by now . Having a mother beat and other wise abuse you then to have her condone you getting raped in a mental ward she sent you to is not some shit you just walk off . So yeah I am a bit of an asshole with a chip on my shoulder cause I see most women as like either my mother or my fucked up exes . Come back at me when you have been falsely charged raped and abused or if your wife ends up fucking you over in divorce court . Until you have seen and or experienced the dark side of female nature you will be blissfully ignorant of how evil and vile women can be . Be thankful you can remain ignorant

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